So today at Marleys class, the teacher (a local) was asking me and another mom (another military wife) how we military moms make ever lasting friendships when every few years we are to move to a new state or country. We both (don't know eachother) looked right at eachother and answered the exact same way. You don't really. I mean of all the bases I've been too I have one or two friends that I actually still talk to randomly or online after she or I have moved. I had close friends who we did everything together, and then she left and I didn't really hear from her again. I was used, and that's ok I used her too in a sense. But then I was in utah my home town where I have my real friends who I stuck with because I've never been one to make a lot of friends. I am 100% comfortable with my small group of best friends who we've been that way for years. Real true friendship. And here I am in a state where I knew / know no one and of course I crave that female bonding of a real friend. But I also have learned even here, actually especially here, that real true friendship takes time. I am a Taurus, and an introvert, I am comfortable being alone most of the time, and a lot of women don't understand that. I don't like a lot of small chat. A text here and there is great, a facebook message, wonderful, but you won't find me at parties (often) or the first one to walk over to a neighbor and introduce myself. You just won't. I'm also old. (I laugh saying that) but I'm almost 30 (gulp soonish) and I have no desire to befriend these young 20s who just joined the mil and want to drink every weekend and talk shit on eachother. You won't catch me at a bar, or a strip club, or any cool place like that. Not that I'm judging those girls but it's just not me. I would rather curl up to a book in my undies or go on Pinterest all night. It's hard to find women with my interests. I'm an old soul in this body. Anywho- the question sparked much discussion in my brain and I realized that I am in dire need of a real true friend here. I believe I found a few that I could call that- and most likely stay in contact with once I leave, but I also don't know. Sometimes I question by their other friend choices or life style. I also can tell that some girls are totally like me- but I just can't say "hey you! Be my new best friend!" Because I'm not 7, and how do you even go about that? Lol I'm an introvert! I do like my mom groups I go to occasionally, most people are genuinely nice and I feel welcomed. It is tough being a military spouse. I miss my home! I miss my friends who get me, and I miss my husband!
Ps please don't take this post offensively chances are if you are even reading this I do care for you, I am not fake if I don't like a person, trust me they know or they wouldn't be able to read such a personal journal. And to any creep who came across this because a fake "friend" sent you this link, both of you can rot in hell and delete me please.
Carry on!
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